Moms can find other ways to be happy aside from having kids. When we entered motherhood, we focused on our kids and our family, forgetting to care for ourselves. Why does this happen? Because we find happiness in the smallest things, and we know the real meaning of contentment. However, even if we have our kids who make us happy, we should not forget about ourselves.
According to Meg Meeker, in her book, The Ten Habits of Happy Mothers: Reclaiming Our Passion, Purpose and Sanity, there are things that make mothers tick. Her book explores ten habits that will help us moms to feel better about ourselves, which in turn leaves us better prepared to cater to our families.
Understand your value as a mother— you are not just a mother by title. You are a mom because of the things you do for your family, especially for your kids. You are not just someone who takes care of the household. Always remember that you are more than that.
Maintain key friendships—create and maintain friendships with other moms. For sure, you will be able to relate and understand each other well.
Value and practice faith—having faith and maintaining it is something that will help you survive everyday. Motherhood is simple, but it can get difficult because it is a never-ending learning process too.
Say no to competition—as a mom, there is no need for you to compete. Once you determine your value and worth as a mother, you would never feel the need to compete.
Create a healthier relationship with money—you should not think of money as a variable that is difficult to deal with. Money, in its own way, helps the family grow, despite giving birth to a few problems.
Make time for solitude—see to it that you still have time for yourself despite the very busy schedule you might have everyday.
Give and get love in healthier ways—there are simple and small ways you can show and receive love. As a mom, you don’t really need to do something extravagant.
Find ways to live simply—don’t complicate your life as a mom and as an individual. Live simply and freely.
Let go of fear—trust yourself and have faith. Always be positive and let go of your worries and fears. Always think that everything will turn out to be fine, eventually.
Make the decision to have hope—always be hopeful. Remember that there’s always a rainbow after the rain.
There will always be hardships and difficulties, but that does not mean you can’t be a happy mom. Start happiness within you and see how it will also make your family and your home happy and contented.
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